Life After Meth …

Today was a dramatic one for Craig and his co-workers.

A fellow employee & friend is probably going to lose his job.

By all accounts he is a decent guy - but apparently he drinks. 

(I’m not sure what end of the spectrum he falls under for consumption.)

Anyway on with the rest of the story …

Craig & his co-workers are required to undergo random drug testing.

Which is a known aspect of their job.

The previously mentioned fellow blew dirty for alcohol sometime in the past and was given a second chance.

I’m fine with this - people make errors in judgment and MESS-UP …

Knowing that he was on his second chance, today he blew dirty AGAIN!

The consequence for this result is probably going to be dismissal.

Right now he is on suspension.

The whole city street department is in an uproar.

Some of the people want him to get yet another chance.

Others are more along the lines of what was he thinking?

I know he is a nice guy - but so what?

He already received a second chance … yet was willing to make a behavior choice that risked losing his job!

I have compassion for him - but no sympathy.

Why don’t people realize behavior choices have consequences?

by dawn

It took me awhile to come to terms with Craig’s confession of drug use & subsequent rehab.  It was a lot of information to digest - a lot of feelings to process.  Something that took me a little by surprise, was the extremely harsh judgments of others.  Not just from acquaintances, but friends and family.  I wasn’t ready for that!

I was under the false impression -

• That people would want Craig to succeed at rehabilitation.
• That people would want our family & marriage to survive intact.
• That they would wish us happiness & health.

The reality was many didn’t, including Craig’s family.  But as we both learned through this whole process - it’s out of our control.  People are entitled to their opinions.  It was kind of interesting to see whom our real friends were - where our emotional support did come from!

I guess what I’m trying to spit out, is during the recovery process, be ready for some harsh judgments.  Because they will come.  And it might surprise you where they come from.  But you might also be equally surprised, by where your support comes from!  

~ by dawn (a.k.a. iowahippiechick)